Parents, children self-confidence destroyed dozens

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If your child has reverse psychology, you have saved the child. Because it shows that he still has self-esteem, you hurt his pride, he picked up this shield to fight with you. Just like people in the fight, anxious eyes, whether it is a broom or a knife, used to use. Response to our children the same token, he is right or wrong whatever you say the truth, ready to fight back.
Just think, there is no other adults in an adult can stand close to a humiliating treatment? The decision in addition to their small children have no choice but to obey. While the adults have continued to love the name of the stubborn force with the rules of the adult world bound children, harm to the child. Total disregard for the rules of adults and children rule the world is different,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], regardless of the back of the child's behavior must have his own reasons. We personally cultivate the child's rude and arrogant, and then blame the world again: \
not being respected in the child's feeling that he was not respected because they are not worthy to be respected, so many seem insolent conceited child, but does not look so inside their own satisfaction, his behavior only in the sense of their own to treat others.
1. parents who do everything
confrontation: \No self-esteem of children through the language you have no way to correct his behavior. We see how many parents, who \
10. conditional love
Therefore, we should absolutely be in the education process to avoid publicly criticizing the child.
parents do not trust the child's gender is also reflected in the feelings of cognitive ability, we must not wishful thinking ability to tell the children of pure emotion and feeling dirty. The truth is, children and all things associated with feeling, and look like other things in nature is very natural, young people have adverse situation of sexual orientation, most of the anti-enhancement by parents, the adverse impact.
2. parental behavior frivolous
too many Chinese parents, the child's daily needs in every possible way, the arrangements for the children's spare time learning the many projects,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], music, painting, dance, foreign language ... ... the future parents who want their children can understand the feelings of Great Expectations , but this attempt to take the approach, will produce in their daily lives dependent children in learning to generate passive and negative emotions. This is extremely beneficial to the child's growth. Child must independently assume responsibility for his life. Over protection of parents of children killed mercilessly creativity. What a child did not do, but learning can never be a genius. On the contrary, if anything from small to long we do for children, adult in the child, in the group will feel nothing, no confidence, no ability to get things done.
4. destructive criticism of the child
conditionally give love a person, it means the discount deal with their emotions. Most parents love their children conditionally direct consequence is that children will lead to serious life can not learn to love others and being loved.
9. to force children to do what he do not want to do
6. do not trust their children
parents, children self-confidence destroyed dozens of acts
3. ignore the presence of children
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If you want to destroy a child's self-esteem, as long as you face criticism of his shortcomings, so he had no opportunity to refute, once you're done!

an orphanage United States organized a group of female college students on a regular basis to the orphanage to give orphans to persist for some time to embrace, physical contact such as touching the touch. The results, after the orphans are to be held each time in a more moderate performance. The reason is that children are born to be concerned about the needs of being loved, if children feel ignored, not taken seriously, you will feel the pride was hurt, and the more intelligent children to be more sensitive to deeper injury. Many parents have any excuse not to listen to children talk. Young children generally reflect is: \
Therefore, if the child not act to respect other people and can not quiet down and listen to people speak, we could then determine, and the children closest to the child usually does not listen attentively to his speech, did not always meet his wishes as far as possible, inadvertently result in harm to the child self-esteem.
of their babies angry, screaming shouting and cursing.
as James Baldwin said: \
behavior is the child of parents living materials. If parents own a lot of disorder at the behavior, usually making rude remarks,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], crude language, used to tell tales, the child will think that there is no respect between people is normal. Even if he speaks truth and then a lively, children would not learn to respect.
wishful thinking to think that we, and excellent children were more likely to provoke children to learn an engine for growth, it is not. Age children, this we have had psychological. This is not only unable to reach his hundred percent to the outstanding in learning purposes, but the desired result, and contrary to the parents, the child will leave a negative shadow of inferiority. This inappropriate comparison, aggressive children may provoke a strong rebellious behavior; on the offensive weak child, it will leave a shadow in the mind,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], \, I is of no value ... ... \
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we parents need to know the real way is to: educate their children compared with his own, with their last comparison. \
8. a way to punish the child improperly
when the child did wrong things, parents want to get rid of by critics to make the shortcomings of the child, and we criticized him as a force of children's behavior. When this force play in the child's behavior, that is your criticism for his behavior, the child will move towards the direction you want to develop. Instead, the force of personality to play in the child's value, that you attack the children as human values,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], would make the child feel that they have no value without dignity, self-esteem and the gradual loss of true value.
homework. You accuse him: \baby! The child's mind to leave this message: \On the other hand, he would think \
do not trust their children's education is a common misunderstanding of Chinese parents. Too many parents do not realize that a person does not trust is the ability of human dignity and relentless challenge. When parents fear their children to lie, if the child were critical of the judge to question, to the hearts of the children planted a seed of suspicion.
Once abandoned as a child
children because the material to rely on adults, so he can not fight with adults, but this does not mean that the child will follow the adult's will. As adults, you can use corporal punishment and scolding the powerful to change the child's behavior, but that does not change the child's mind. The child's behavior must have his own reasons, if parents do not understand the root causes of children's behavior, but according to their own opinion of mere judge your child but the strong pressure of fear, heart was not convinced. If the home education, parents can blindly punishment beatings make children feel helpless and without dignity.
there are too many children in the education process of parents did not express unconditional love for children, but to love for the child together with the child's behavior. In life, it is too common scenario:
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parents that love is to make children the appropriate behavior to be made a precondition, which makes the kids to realize that \So he would not give unconditional love. Because his love is conditional, so adult he can not love others to establish a stable relationship, which determines his unfortunate marriage. He will be despised by others in the environment, and finally degenerated into a type of snob ordinary people, life hovering at the bottom.
loud rebuke young children: \
words intimidate teenagers: \
unwarranted charges against the child's behavior, shouted: \
even some parents take their children kneeling in public, public humiliation of the child in order to make the child better.
behavior of some extreme punishment, and even breed resentment in the child's mind the seeds, still keep the negative in the shadow of an adult.
7. to take another child is
because you are a child if the food suppliers,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], so you get the will power to govern their children, let him do what he must do so, you are master, the child becomes your slave! Do not want to force children to do, is equal to disregard the dignity of the child, which is home education parents must always be careful to note, \
early life in the child if the parents do not listen to children speak, do not ignore the child, ignoring the existence of the child, the child will think that this is normal behavior, is a state of normal relations between people, so that children can not build self-esteem .
destructive criticism is relentless self-esteem of children deprived of.
children and adults as the main independent personality, he is not your high class toys,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], parents should respect the child's own choice.
every parent must understand that even if more young mind will be very sensitive. If the child's early life can not get enough respect, will lead to the child is building self-esteem have been mercilessly killed. In this issue, many parents there is a misunderstanding, they follow the \That in front of outsiders in the family's public, education can reprimand a child, the only way a child can have memory, can be impressive to get rid of problems. A result of these wrong practices and parents want their children to the contrary that the crowd behaved rude behavior,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], rude, reckless, and there is elders. Please search of a home education if you have a similar behavior:
comparison here is that parents take advantage of other people's children and to compare the shortcomings of their children.
the following 10 points are easy to mistake the parents teach children the harm to the child process of self-esteem behavior. If not these acts to be avoided, will greatly hurt the child's self-esteem.
Too often, children do not toe the line, often in front of people, \Our traditional philosophy of education that this is normal. As everyone knows, publicly criticized the child being intimidated by pressure only, not resistance. More importantly, will hurt the child's self-esteem. Curses do not have much time is enough, once you can put the child to hurt the young mind!
many parents frequently punched and kicked the child, you know, hitting a child is the most direct harm to the child self-esteem. To now, there are parents stubbornly believe that \
Therefore, parents should always keep in mind: the personality, the child is the subject of equality and their own. Children born with the right to be respected. You like self-respect, respect for leadership, colleagues, friends, like respect for your child.
Today, children do not seriously

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